At Her Feet

Women from my perspective... looking up, mentally and physically.

Upscale 50's married guy, lifelong submissive, married to a vanilla domme who sort of knows but would rather not. As time goes on, I find I am much more intersted in the dynamics involved in a domestic discipline or a cuckolding relationship, as opposed to just the physical acts typically associated with these interests. Said differently, it's less about the fetish and more about the raw, primitive, ungaurded intimacy and vulnerability.

Almost all of my posts are reblogs from other tumblr sites. Recently I have started putting my comments to the respost in bold to distinguish them from earlier comments. There are are few images reposted from blogs on other systems like blogspot, which I try to attribute. If there is something that is yours you would like removed, please let me know and I will quickly oblige.

girlsrule-subsdrool asked: Hi! Thank you for all your comments and advice, very helpful! I've been keeping very busy in the city, and already have plans for the day, but thanks for your sweet offer. Have a great Monday. Maria

Enjoy. We should have put up a bill board that says “welcome to the sexiest, smartest girl on tumblr”.

momdomme:

Daytime or nighttime, there is only one correct answer for the dirty thoughts of naughty boys.

So very true, at least in my case.

"The sub is really in control."

girlsrule-subsdrool:

Written by perversecowgirl at the blog hiding in plain sight. I love this blog. Go read it.

People on FetLife regularly trot out the D/s platitude that “in a D/s relationship, the sub is really the one in control.”

Why is the sub the one ultimately in control? Because the sub can stop a scene with a safeword at any time, and because a sub can leave a relationship that’s not fulfilling.

Here’s why the platitude is bullshit, though: the dominant can stop a scene whenever they want, too (and doesn’t even need a safeword. They can just…stop). The dominant can also leave a relationship that’s unfulfilling.

Neither person in a D/s relationship is actually more powerful than the other.

Seriously, the more I think about this stuff, the more obvious it is to me that D/s relationships are not a hierarchy (as most people seem to want to believe); they’re a symbiosis. You have one person who thrives on being humiliated or receiving pain or giving service or taking orders or feeling owned, and you have another person who thrives on giving humiliation or pain or accepting service or giving orders or feeling a sense of ownership. These two people’s interests mesh well and they agree that the dominant will do certain things and the sub will do certain things and, ideally, everyone ends up happy.

Yes, the dynamic is thrilling. Yes, when all goes well the sub feels owned or powerless and the dominant feels powerful. But these are roles the two people are occupying, and the spell can be broken if either party steps out of place.

So I’m getting a little sick of domly-doms who take themselves too seriously and subs who smugly claim that they secretly run the show. STFU. Your relationship is a negotiated dance between equals, hopefully choreographed to keep everyone content, and either one of you can end it and either one of you can fuck it up. Just like the vanillas.

(Source: feedly.com)

husband-discipline:

"Don’t stare at what I am wearing, look at what I am carrying."


My mistress has promised that, should I ever get divorced, I will not be allowed to go on a fourth date with any woman until she is had lunch with my mistress.

husband-discipline:

"Don’t stare at what I am wearing, look at what I am carrying."

My mistress has promised that, should I ever get divorced, I will not be allowed to go on a fourth date with any woman until she is had lunch with my mistress.

(Source: she-rules)

when the fantasy becomes a painful reality.

when the fantasy becomes a painful reality.

(Source: littlebig1963)

mross123123:

God please never let this happen!!

Actually, any of us under 6” should have a different color license, so anyone can instantly tell every time will pull it out in public.

mross123123:

God please never let this happen!!

Actually, any of us under 6” should have a different color license, so anyone can instantly tell every time will pull it out in public.

(Source: ashandj, via littlebig1963)

Transition from fun fantasy to painful, embarrassing reality occurs at precisely the moment she decides she is not embarrassed for people to know she disciplines you.
Credit to contemplatingthedevine.blogspot.com

Transition from fun fantasy to painful, embarrassing reality occurs at precisely the moment she decides she is not embarrassed for people to know she disciplines you.

Credit to contemplatingthedevine.blogspot.com