At Her Feet

Women from my perspective... looking up, mentally and physically.

Upscale 50's married guy, lifelong submissive, married to a vanilla domme who sort of knows but would rather not. As time goes on, I find I am much more intersted in the dynamics involved in a domestic discipline or a cuckolding relationship, as opposed to just the physical acts typically associated with these interests. Said differently, it's less about the fetish and more about the raw, primitive, ungaurded intimacy and vulnerability.

Almost all of my posts are reblogs from other tumblr sites. Recently I have started putting my comments to the respost in bold to distinguish them from earlier comments. There are are few images reposted from blogs on other systems like blogspot, which I try to attribute. If there is something that is yours you would like removed, please let me know and I will quickly oblige.

What we want is to submit to the object of our lust.  What we deserve is to become her lover’s bitch.

What we want is to submit to the object of our lust.  What we deserve is to become her lover’s bitch.

(Source: heartlesswives, via littlebig1963)

Dealing with some things

heartlesswives:

I often think about what I don’t get from Anne.

But it’s not just what I don’t get. It’s what I’ll never, ever get. Sometimes it’s weird to think about it. Forever is a long time.

Most men have hope that certain things might happen. A beautiful girl might seduce them one day, their wife or…

I certainly relate to the first half.

Anonymous asked: Ms. Becky - What are your views on chastity?

bossymsbecky:

The most loyal among my followers should read no further, as I suppose I have already voiced my opinion here and there on this blog, but here goes.

First of all, I I’m convinced it is very healthy for a man to ejaculate frequently and not be subjected to protracted periods of denial.  At the same time I believe it’s most beneficial for the male orgasm to be regulated - by a woman. If a man is made to earn the privilege of coming, he becomes a better man: more attentive to her, both in- and outside the bedroom. In particular, he will be more willing and become more apt at pleasuring her orally, which for most women is the preferred - and oftentimes only - route to orgasm (and multiple ones at that). Enforced chastity thus becomes an important motivator and therefore one of the great tools for preserving and strengthening a relationship.

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Like I said before, I see hardly any reason why a man should be denied his orgasm for a long time or even altogether. The only drawback is the inevitable euphoria which leads to a temporary sense of independence. I for one love to have that explosion inside me and I don’t mind letting his euphoria reign for a (little) while. In a relationship a woman should be able to rein in that tendency once she feels it’s lasted long enough.

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I guess many will consider my bf lucky, as he may climax like up to 3 or 4 times a week. It’s a lot less than what I’m getting, and a lot less than what those in the porn industry seem to prescribe, but I honestly do not believe he could do many more. Or maybe he could, but I think they would be less intense - whereas for me the intensity grows with each new orgasm. So it’s good for both of us.

However, like I said, he needs to deserve it and if I find he is lacking in any respect, he is not getting any. Simple as that. And I don’t feel sorry, even if it means his balls are painfully heavy for a week or more. But the very good thing is, that denial motivates him tremendously, so a week or more of chastity is quite rare.

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Is a chastity device necessary? There’s no single answer to that and every woman must decide for herself. I myself fully trust him not to come without permission and I have never had any doubts that he deserves my trust. One reason for his good behavior, besides love and respect for his Mistress, may be that he thinks I may still some day introduce a chastity device. And indeed I am toying with the idea, as the thought of having that - physical - key does excite me more and more.hee

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I could be trusted by my wife.  If only she would ask.

websissy:

Mistress knows how much more humiliating it is when she tells me what to do as she makes me suck off strange men. She loves to humiliate me further, as if having their cum in my mouth was not enough humiliation, by making me thank them for allowing me to suck them. While her voice did not give it way yet, and she sounded sweet, as soon as the man’s cum dripped from my mouth down his cock I knew I was in trouble. For now I would have to lick it up and make sure he was clean, later I was sure I would be punished for not keeping it all in my mouth and swallowing. I hope she didn’t decide that the entire course of my cocksucker training had to be repeated. I didn’t want to do that again, I would beg her not to start me all over, plead with her and tell her I would do better next time. I really didn’t want to spend six more hours in a hotel room, dressed only in lingerie, bound to a chair and blindfolded as anonymous cock after cock fucked my face and filled my mouth with cum.

For those of us that want the “forced-bi” experience, we shouldn’t be allowed to remain abstracted from what we doing.  We need to be held accountable to behave like a committed, homosexual cock sucker who wants to seduce his lover.

(via anonymous-gender)

openmarriageandcuckold:

openmarriageandcuckold:  real

This is what makes me so pathetic… it’s what I SHOULD feel if my wife wanted to fuck someone else… but it’s not what I actually would feel.

earlybedtimepunishments:

There’s nothing more frustrating than a very sound spanking in pyjamas, in the middle of the day, just before an early bedtime…


and what naughty sissies like me often deserve.

earlybedtimepunishments:

There’s nothing more frustrating than a very sound spanking in pyjamas, in the middle of the day, just before an early bedtime…

and what naughty sissies like me often deserve.

(Source: thepenitents, via topnbottom)

 
Which is more shameful… that I’m majorly jealous of his lingerie, or that I want his dick in my mouth?

 

Which is more shameful… that I’m majorly jealous of his lingerie, or that I want his dick in my mouth?

(Source: misstararoberts)

pet-trap:

It’s no use struggling pet …
They are police issue handcuffs you’re wearing …
Now keep nice and still …
I want to change your attitude to Facesitting …
There’s a good boi …

So sexy.. so intimidating.

pet-trap:

It’s no use struggling pet …

They are police issue handcuffs you’re wearing …

Now keep nice and still …

I want to change your attitude to Facesitting …

There’s a good boi …

So sexy.. so intimidating.

(Source: lovelylycra)